March 22, 2014
fuckyeahsexeducation:

katelucia:

Jada Pinkett-Smith is aware of the critics that frown up their noses at the way she raises her daughter, Willow. Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair as she pleases, a fact that bothers many who feel girls shouldn’t have that much control over their appearance at such a young age.
Jada decided to address the criticism in a Facebook post:

“A letter to a friend…This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”



I’m pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before but seriously this is something we should be teaching all our children. Their bodies are theirs, not ours as parents. As soon as you tell someone their body doesn’t belong to theirs you take away so much from them.

fuckyeahsexeducation:

katelucia:

Jada Pinkett-Smith is aware of the critics that frown up their noses at the way she raises her daughter, Willow. Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair as she pleases, a fact that bothers many who feel girls shouldn’t have that much control over their appearance at such a young age.

Jada decided to address the criticism in a Facebook post:

“A letter to a friend…This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”

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I’m pretty sure I’ve reblogged this before but seriously this is something we should be teaching all our children. Their bodies are theirs, not ours as parents. As soon as you tell someone their body doesn’t belong to theirs you take away so much from them.

(via theremina)

March 19, 2014
lllurnise:

misandry-mermaid:

Isn’t that interesting.
Tumblr emailed me to tell me they deleted my post calling out the dude who sent me a rape threat.
But hasn’t banned the dude who sent me a rape threat, even though I reported him.
I guess Tumblr just wants to make their site safer for people who send rape threats than those who receive them.
I guess it’s not considered harassment to send rape threats, but if you name the person who sends you rape threats, you are harassing them.
INTERESTING

Signal boost the  fuck out of this. Let’s make tumblr’s moderation team feel fucking ashamed for letting this happen. Let’s fucking make them question their worth and ability and place in the world and make them feel like the utter sacks of fucking shit they are until they fucking fix this and every case like this.


Fucking despicable behaviour by Tumblr’s moderation team.

lllurnise:

misandry-mermaid:

Isn’t that interesting.

Tumblr emailed me to tell me they deleted my post calling out the dude who sent me a rape threat.

But hasn’t banned the dude who sent me a rape threat, even though I reported him.

I guess Tumblr just wants to make their site safer for people who send rape threats than those who receive them.

I guess it’s not considered harassment to send rape threats, but if you name the person who sends you rape threats, you are harassing them.

INTERESTING

Signal boost the  fuck out of this. Let’s make tumblr’s moderation team feel fucking ashamed for letting this happen. Let’s fucking make them question their worth and ability and place in the world and make them feel like the utter sacks of fucking shit they are until they fucking fix this and every case like this.

Fucking despicable behaviour by Tumblr’s moderation team.

(via eddieatthegov)

March 16, 2014

When you are hurting, there will always be people who find a way to make it about themselves. If you break your wrist, they’ll complain about a sprained ankle. If you are sad, they’re sadder. If you’re asking for help, they’ll demand more attention.

Here is a fact: I was in a hospital and sobbing into my palms when a woman approached me and asked why I was making so much noise and I managed to stutter that my best friend shot himself in the head and now he was 100% certified dead and she made this little grunt and had the nerve to tell me, “Well now you made me sad.”

When you get angry, there are going to be people who ask you to shut up and sit down, and they’re not going to do it nicely. Theirs are the faces that turn bright red before you have a chance to finish your sentence. They won’t ask you to explain yourself. They’ll be mad that you’re mad and that will be their whole reason alone.

Here is a fact: I was in an alleyway a few weeks ago, stroking my friend’s back as she vomited fourteen tequila shots. “I hate men,” she wheezed as her sides heaved, “I hate all of them.”

I braided her hair so it wouldn’t get caught in the mess. I didn’t correct her and reply that she does in fact love her father and her little brother too, that there are strangers she has yet to meet that will be better for her than any of her shitty ex-boyfriends, that half of our group of friends identifies as male - I could hear each of her bruises in those words and I didn’t ask her to soften the blow when she was trying to buff them out of her skin. She doesn’t hate all men. She never did.

She had the misfortune to be overheard by a drunk guy in an ill-fitting suit, a boy trying to look like a man and leering down my dress as he stormed towards us. “Fuck you, lady,” he said, “Fuck you. Not all men are evil, you know.”

“Thanks,” I told him dryly, pulling on her hand, trying to get her inside again, “See you.”

He followed us. Wouldn’t stop shouting. How dare she get mad. How dare she was hurting. “It’s hard for me too!” he yowled after us. “With fuckers like you, how’s a guy supposed to live?”

Here’s a fact: my father is Cuban and my genes repeat his. Once one of my teachers looked at my heritage and said, “Your skin doesn’t look dirty enough to be a Mexican.”

When my cheeks grew pink and my tongue dried up, someone else in the classroom stood up. “You can’t say that,” he said, “That’s fucking racist. We could report you for that.”

Our teacher turned vicious. “You wanna fail this class? Go ahead. Report me. I was joking. It’s my word against yours. I hate kids like you. You think you’ve got all the power - you don’t. I do.”

Later that kid and I became close friends and we skipped class to do anything else and the two of us were lying on our backs staring up at the sky and as we talked about that moment, he sighed, “I hate white people.” His girlfriend is white and so is his mom. I reached out until my fingers were resting in the warmth of his palm.

He spoke up each time our teacher said something shitty. He failed the class. I stayed silent. I got the A but I wish that I didn’t.

Here is a fact: I think gender is a social construct and people that want to tell others what defines it just haven’t done their homework. I personally happen to have the luck of the draw and am the same gender as my sex, which basically just means society leaves me alone about this one particular thing.

Until I met Alex, who said he hated cis people. My throat closed up. I’m not good at confrontation. I avoided him because I didn’t want to bother him.

One day I was going on a walk and I found him behind our school, bleeding out of the side of his mouth. The only thing I really know is how to patch people up. He winced when the antibacterial cream went across his new wounds. “I hate cis people,” he said weakly.

I looked at him and pushed his hair back from his head. “I understand why you do.”

Here is a fact: anger is a secondary emotion. Anger is how people stop themselves from hurting. Anger is how people stop themselves by empathizing.

It is easy for the drunken man to be mad at my friend. If he says “Hey, fuck you, lady,” he doesn’t have to worry about what’s so wrong about men.

It’s easy for my teacher to fail the kids who speak up. If we’re just smart-ass students, it’s not his fault we fuck up.

It’s easy for me to hate Alex for labeling me as dangerous when I’ve never hurt someone a day in my life. But I’m safe in my skin and his life is at risk just by going to the bathroom. I understand why he says things like that. I finally do.

There’s a difference between the spread of hatred and the frustration of people who are hurting. The thing is, when you are broken, there will always be someone who says “I’m worse, stop talking.” There will always be people who are mad you’re trying to steal the attention. There will always be people who get mad at the same time as you do - they hate being challenged. It changes the rules.

I say I hate all Mondays but my sister was born on one and she’s the greatest joy I have ever known. I say I hate brown but it’s really just the word and how it turns your mouth down - the colour is my hair and my eyes and my favorite sweater. I say I hate pineapple but I still try it again every Easter, just to see if it stings less this year. It’s okay to be sad when you hear someone generalize a group you’re in. But instead of assuming they’re evil and filled with hatred, maybe ask them why they think that way - who knows, you might just end up with a new and kind friend.

By telling the oppressed that their anger is unjustified, you allow the oppression to continue. I know it’s hard to stay calm. I know it’s scary. But you’re coming from the safe place and they aren’t. Just please … Try to be more understanding. /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)

(via eddieatthegov)

March 15, 2014
March 9, 2014
thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

opalinebaby:

disgustinghuman:

thescarletwoman:

kayemeych:

allthingsservethebeam:

irishcob:

Warning for Trans Youth in Southern Ontario
Avoid Dr. Kenneth Zucker of the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto. He will not help you in any way and upon asking many invasive, disrespectful, and irrelevant questions, he will suggest you undergo “reparative therapy” to “fix” you (pictured above). When he finishes writing his “report”, which can take months, he will refer to you in an extremely dehumanizing manner that makes you out to be some kind of oddity (eg “He seems very interested in having breasts.”) and he will not respect your gender or use the correct pronouns whatsoever. Not only that, but when he requests your report cards and school pictures (???) he will really take his time in giving them back when you ask him to. Good luck contacting him outside of an appointment, too, as he very rarely, if ever, responds to emails or phone calls. He has stated he considers trans women a “bad outcome of gay men.” Don’t waste your time with this transphobic piece of shit.

SIGNAL BOOOOOOOST

Yes yes yes I’m so happy people are talking about this. That clinic works under the old DSM criteria. If you are looking for physical health or mental health or family support around gender please contact Rainbow Health Ontario or the new trans clinic at Sick Kids.
A lot of parents especially go to that clinic with their kids because it’s affiliated with such a well know national agency and they assume it will be the best support. If you hear anyone talking about it please correct them, it is very harmful. :(

I wrote a post last year about an amazing Ontario doctor who specializes in health-care for trans youth, Dr. Carys Massarella. She is the lead Physician of the Transcare Program at Quest Community Health Centre in St. Catharine’s, and is currently one of only three ‘non-pathologizing’ trans-care health providers in Ontario. ‘Non-Pathologizing’ means that when a trans-patient comes in to speak with her about care and care options, their trans identity is:
 not questioned
 not treated as something needing to be fixed
 not pathologized as a mental illness which requires a psychiatric evaluation before proceeding with care options.  
If you’re a trans youth looking for health-care (or know any trans youth whose families are hoping to get medical support for them), please DO NOT go to/recommend Dr. Zucker at CAMH. He is severely transphobic and is only looking to ‘fix’ trans kids who he thinks are ‘confused’. Instead, two hospitals that are doing good work for transfolks in the GTA and surrounding area are St. Mike’s in Toronto and St. Joseph’s in Hamilton. Both are (surprisingly) Catholic hospitals, but have made reputations for themselves as providing ethical care for the LGBTQ community. Carys herself is a member of the St. Joseph’s health staff, and says that her transition was embraced at the hospital and its catholic staff, including its nuns. As well, Dr. Massarella’s practice, Quest Community Heath Centre, is a fantastic resource if you can get out to St. Catherine’s. 

Reblogging for new information

Personally been hearing some things about CAMH that run the gamut from “sketchy” to “terrifying” for years now from people I personally know, so like, boosting.

^ IMPORTANT INFORMATION HERE <3

thefingerfuckingfemalefury:

opalinebaby:

disgustinghuman:

thescarletwoman:

kayemeych:

allthingsservethebeam:

irishcob:

Warning for Trans Youth in Southern Ontario

Avoid Dr. Kenneth Zucker of the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH) in Toronto. He will not help you in any way and upon asking many invasive, disrespectful, and irrelevant questions, he will suggest you undergo “reparative therapy” to “fix” you (pictured above). When he finishes writing his “report”, which can take months, he will refer to you in an extremely dehumanizing manner that makes you out to be some kind of oddity (eg “He seems very interested in having breasts.”) and he will not respect your gender or use the correct pronouns whatsoever. Not only that, but when he requests your report cards and school pictures (???) he will really take his time in giving them back when you ask him to. Good luck contacting him outside of an appointment, too, as he very rarely, if ever, responds to emails or phone calls. He has stated he considers trans women a “bad outcome of gay men.” Don’t waste your time with this transphobic piece of shit.

SIGNAL BOOOOOOOST

Yes yes yes I’m so happy people are talking about this. That clinic works under the old DSM criteria. If you are looking for physical health or mental health or family support around gender please contact Rainbow Health Ontario or the new trans clinic at Sick Kids.

A lot of parents especially go to that clinic with their kids because it’s affiliated with such a well know national agency and they assume it will be the best support. If you hear anyone talking about it please correct them, it is very harmful. :(

I wrote a post last year about an amazing Ontario doctor who specializes in health-care for trans youth, Dr. Carys Massarella. She is the lead Physician of the Transcare Program at Quest Community Health Centre in St. Catharine’s, and is currently one of only three ‘non-pathologizing’ trans-care health providers in Ontario. ‘Non-Pathologizing’ means that when a trans-patient comes in to speak with her about care and care options, their trans identity is:

  •  not questioned
  •  not treated as something needing to be fixed
  •  not pathologized as a mental illness which requires a psychiatric evaluation before proceeding with care options.  

If you’re a trans youth looking for health-care (or know any trans youth whose families are hoping to get medical support for them), please DO NOT go to/recommend Dr. Zucker at CAMH. He is severely transphobic and is only looking to ‘fix’ trans kids who he thinks are ‘confused’. Instead, two hospitals that are doing good work for transfolks in the GTA and surrounding area are St. Mike’s in Toronto and St. Joseph’s in Hamilton. Both are (surprisingly) Catholic hospitals, but have made reputations for themselves as providing ethical care for the LGBTQ community. Carys herself is a member of the St. Joseph’s health staff, and says that her transition was embraced at the hospital and its catholic staff, including its nuns. As well, Dr. Massarella’s practice, Quest Community Heath Centre, is a fantastic resource if you can get out to St. Catherine’s. 

Reblogging for new information

Personally been hearing some things about CAMH that run the gamut from “sketchy” to “terrifying” for years now from people I personally know, so like, boosting.

^ IMPORTANT INFORMATION HERE <3

(Source: mawiler, via impetuousheadlongrush)

July 26, 2013
April 1, 2013

deduction-to-seduction:

deduction-to-seduction:

hiddlesbatchlove:

deduction-to-seduction:

You’ve been playing with fire, mother. Prepare to get B U R N E D

I’VE BEEN LAUGHING FOR 10000 YEARS

Update: My mum came home. It’s a good thing I did this in the bathroom because she nearly peed herself when she saw it. After she finished laughing she turned to me with this dead serious expression and whispered

This means war

and silently walked out of the room

Guys I’m scared shitless I think my mum is gonna kill me in my sleep

UPDATE: I WOKE UP THIS MORNING AND MY COMPUTER BACKGROUND WAS CHANGED TO THIS

WITH A STICKY NOTE ON THE KEY BOARD THAT SAYS

“I am the oncoming storm”

HELP

(Source: deductiontoseduction, via fraulein-brittanica)

March 31, 2013

zombiecyborg:

Game of Thrones-style House Sigils for the internet.

(via thegreatgodum)

March 21, 2013
jekagonz:

Wow crying okay

jekagonz:

Wow crying okay

(Source: blueberrytouches, via wornoldhat)

March 16, 2013
March 15, 2013
patchworkpuppet:

elkaydee:

fuoco-go:

lets-do-it-the-gerard-way:

hexterian:

faroresferrari:

allthingshyper:

wanderingquill:

These guys can no longer claim, women don’t know true pain. 

I enjoy this post WAY too much

Call me malicious but I want every male politician who’s against birth control and abortion to get hooked up to one of these.

the suffering in action
they only lasted about 2 hours compared to the average of 10 hours.

HA
HAHAHAHA

how can anyone hate science when it gives us this

I enjoyed watching that way too much

Reminds me of the Proud Family episode, where the dad says “No pain like football pain”And the mother replies, “What about childbirth?”
And he just awkwardly smiles, knowing that she got him &gt;:D

patchworkpuppet:

elkaydee:

fuoco-go:

lets-do-it-the-gerard-way:

hexterian:

faroresferrari:

allthingshyper:

wanderingquill:

These guys can no longer claim, women don’t know true pain. 

I enjoy this post WAY too much

Call me malicious but I want every male politician who’s against birth control and abortion to get hooked up to one of these.

the suffering in action

they only lasted about 2 hours compared to the average of 10 hours.


HA

HAHAHAHA

how can anyone hate science when it gives us this

I enjoyed watching that way too much

Reminds me of the Proud Family episode, where the dad says “No pain like football pain”
And the mother replies, “What about childbirth?”

And he just awkwardly smiles, knowing that she got him >:D

(Source: 21mommy2her, via marhurram)

March 13, 2013
lotsofloveforlarry:

kindin:

bitmental:

theghostthatmikeknows:

pancakesteak:

xwidep:

Perspective.

THIS GIF IS PISSING ME OFF RIGHT NOW

amazing

mind blown.

stop that

GODDAMMIT STOP THAT

lotsofloveforlarry:

kindin:

bitmental:

theghostthatmikeknows:

pancakesteak:

xwidep:

Perspective.

THIS GIF IS PISSING ME OFF RIGHT NOW

amazing

mind blown.

stop that

GODDAMMIT STOP THAT

(Source: cineraria, via thegreatgodum)

new-aesthetic:

“The woman is visible from thousands of miles away on a hacker’s computer. The hacker has infected her machine with a remote administration tool (RAT) that gives him access to the woman’s screen, to her webcam, to her files, to her microphone. He watches her and the baby through a small control window open on his Windows PC, then he decides to have a little fun. He enters a series of shock and pornographic websites and watches them appear on the woman’s computer.”
Meet the men who spy on women through their webcams | Ars Technica

new-aesthetic:

“The woman is visible from thousands of miles away on a hacker’s computer. The hacker has infected her machine with a remote administration tool (RAT) that gives him access to the woman’s screen, to her webcam, to her files, to her microphone. He watches her and the baby through a small control window open on his Windows PC, then he decides to have a little fun. He enters a series of shock and pornographic websites and watches them appear on the woman’s computer.”

Meet the men who spy on women through their webcams | Ars Technica

powerperfgirl:

jumpingjacktrash:

vastderp:

darckcarnival:

rururunegg:

trailofdesire:

notmissmarple:

dorkery:

dendropsyche:

Like, I knew shepherding was a boring job

but these guys really had nothing better to do

Oh my god

this is the BEST THING

I HAVE SEEN

ALL MONTH

Could not hit reblog fast enough.

you are SHITTING ME

THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO THAT IS BETTER THAN THIS

(( FUCKING HELL…. ))

oh, wow.

look at the amazing goofy shit we can do!

look at how amazing our animals are!

when the death ray aliens show up asking if we deserve to live, we just need to show them this.

this just makes me entirely, completely happy! i’m laughing so hard there are actual tears on my face, and the smile will take an hour to fade.

how to exercise your sheep, keep yourself entertained, and make the world laugh, the video. :D

OH MY FUCKING GOD

(Source: extremetanning, via darkknightjrk)